My manifesto is simply this. I want you to have beautiful photographs of yourself that you will love. I want your family to have beautiful images of you that you're proud of. I want you to have images of yourself that you like having on display in your home. Remember the saying you have to love you before anyone else can? Well although I don't think this is wholly true I do believe loving yourself makes it easier for those around you to love you. Here's another one for you. Take care of you first so you can take care of others. No this one I do believe is entirely true. If you have ever been on an aeroplane you'll have been through one of the safety briefings in which they tell parents to put their own masks on before that of their children. Why? Sure I should see to my child first? Well actually no because if your child is panicking and you are struggling to fit their mask then you could very well pass out before you help either your child or yourself. As parents and especially as mothers we see it as our duty to put everyone in our family before our selves. When we should actually be putting ourselves first so we can be the best version of ourselves for our family.
The likelihood of this happening on a daily basis is slim but we all need to take time for ourselves time to rediscover us, who we are, what we love and why we love it. My photography sessions give women the time to find themselves again. Knowing how important family is I will always offer to have the family come in for the last section of the session and have some family portraits together. You will look beautiful and your family will get precious images of you feeling amazing.
Exist in photos is the cry of myself and many of my photographic colleagues. I read a blog some weeks ago and I can't remember who's it was or I'd link to it. But the photographer told of how one of her clients came in for a session and left feeling amazing. She had done a female portrait session with her and she had been on her own but had called her husband during the session to tell him how truly beautiful she felt, her husband said this was the first time she'd ever said that to him though he thought she was beautiful every day. The photograph was surprised to find she couldn't get hold of her client in the weeks to come her photos were ready to view but she was getting no response to messages or emails. around three weeks later she got a call from the clients friend who told her that her client had died in a car accident not long after her session and that was why she hadn't gotten a response. The husband then came into view the images of his wife. Well as you can imagine these photos will be some of the most precious images he owns.
The thing is the past is gone you can't insert yourself into images from your child's 2nd birthday where you stayed behind the camera for the whole day you can input yourself into the family holiday snaps where you where feeling too big to be in the images. Tomorrow is not promised and none of us know for sure when our final day will come so the excuse of when I lose 10lbs is an excuse that doesn't hold up when we know how quickly life can be taken away. Don't wait until you are perfectly happy with you we will always find something we don't like but our families and friends they love us now just as we are don't be absent from the memories. If you weren't here tomorrow what images would your family have of you? When was the last time you had a professional family portrait done? When was the last time you had a beautiful image of yourself?
Below you will see images of me practicing what I preach. I love my daughter and photographying her so after a session for a client I got her in front of the camera. I did her hair and makeup I was tired hadn't had a shower and had no makeup on. She asked me to get infront of the camera with her. The first image with me is me begging no because I looked aweful. Then I heard myself, I stopped and thought about it and I agree this was for her not for me. Now I could pick my self apart in these images I look a state but my girl loves them so that's all that matters. I am booking in my own session so we can have some beautiful images I will love too though :)